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Bereavement Support Services
- Be true to yourself. Grieve openly and with your whole heart.
- Remember that this is the most unpredictable and painful experience you will ever go through.
- Peculiar behaviors are often normal behaviors where grief is concerned.
- Tell your relatives and friends the depth of your pain and that you need them to stand by your side through the ebbs and flows of emotions.
- Only you know what is right for you; others cannot dictate how you should feel or what you should do.
- Balance your activities with quiet times to reflect.
- Understand that you died the day your child died and that “old self” will not return. You cannot be what or who you were before this devastating loss.
- This is a life-long journey of learning to live with the death of your child. You will survive, and hopefully survive well, but it is important to be patient with yourself.
- Take time for a massage or anything where you can allow someone to nurture you. Tears may come during the experience but they are healing tears.
- Every time you cry you are releasing toxins from your system. Feel free…..at any time.