Women & Children's Hospital of Buffalo

Bereavement Support Services
Moms

Bereaved Moms

• Be true to yourself. Grieve openly and with your whole heart.
• Remember that this is the most unpredictable and painful experience you will ever go through.
• Peculiar behaviors are often normal behaviors where grief is concerned.
• Tell your relatives and friends the depth of your pain and that you need them to stand by your side through the ebbs and flows of emotions.
• Only you know what is right for you; others cannot dictate how you should feel or what you should do.
• Balance your activities with quiet times to reflect.
• Understand that you died the day your child died and that “old self” will not return. You cannot be what or who you were before this devastating loss.
• This is a life-long journey of learning to live with the death of your child. You will survive, and hopefully survive well, but it is important to be patient with yourself.
• Take time for a massage or anything where you can allow someone to nurture you. Tears may come during the experience but they are healing tears.
• Every time you cry you are releasing toxins from your system. Feel free…..at any time.